Kingdom Keys To Marrying Right
“I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven;…”
There are keys to everything in the Kingdom of God, marriage inclusive.
If you stand before a closed door with the wrong key it won’t open for you.
To access provisions in the Kingdom we need the right keys ( information) which when rightly applied, open doors for us.
The most important decision a man or woman makes in life is the choice of whom to marry.
Many a man and woman are either permanently confined in a wheelchair, in the mortuary or dead and buried because of the choice of whom they married.
For some who are not in a wheelchair or dead, they are either scarred by fire or acid by the one who supposedly said they loved them, and they married him or her. While some will have to go through therapy and live on drugs for the rest of their lives as a result of the mental health trauma and damage sustained from marrying the wrong spouse.
Some who had good prospects in their career, especially women, marrying the wrong spouse quenched their light and turned them into a ghost of the person they were before the wrong man walked into their lives.
Marrying the right man or woman is the most beautiful gift that a man or woman can receive from the universe.
It is also the best gift a man or woman can gift to their unborn children.
Your children deserve to be conceived and born in an environment of love, warmth, and deep affection. That way they can seamlessly thrive amongst their peers.
Marrying the right spouse is not necessarily about money or opulence and wealth. It’s about marrying a spouse who is intentional about you, your feelings, vision, and purpose.
The spouse who sees you from the prism of God’s love. Delicate and fragile yet strong and endowed with the ability to be so much more than you were when they met you.
Marrying right is about marrying someone who you share the same spiritual bond with.
I’m intentional about using spiritual bonds
and not religious affiliation.
Many Christian women have been murdered
by their husbands who are Christians.
The spiritual bond is deeper than a religious affiliation in that both of you relate in the dimension of your spiritual sync. He or she bonds with your spirit to spirit and not as a being carrying an earthly body.
Deep calleth unto deep it is written. Psalm 42:7
When the man and woman are spiritually in sync, they share a bond that transcends the physical body bond which is temporal.
The two spirits though having two bodies closely bonded and knitted as one is what God is talking about when He says that two become one.
When you marry the right spouse who you share a spiritual bond with, it shows in your physical body and environment.
Thus it’s important that we are intentional and careful when choosing a spouse for those of us who are still single, engaged, courting, divorced seeking to marry so that we can marry right.
This is why I’m led in my spirit to share these Kingdom Keys ;
1. Discover Your Purpose :
Discovering your purpose as a man or man is the NO1 key to finding and marrying the right helper and partner (spouse )that is just right for you.
One of the major reasons, why many marriages are failing today, is that men and women keep putting marriage before purpose at the end of the day when they want to carry out their purpose it becomes a problem.
Your purpose in life determines your choice of companion, helper, and partner. It is a guideline for choosing a spouse.
Why?
Whoever you marry comes into your life to help you fulfil it. If you don’t know what your purpose is, how will you choose the right spouse who will help you fulfil it?
In carrying out a task, the tool you use determines how fast or stressful your work will be using the cutting of a tree as an illustration.
The LORD God did not give Adam a wife until He gave him a purpose.
The LORD God placed man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over it. But the LORD GOD warned him “ You may freely eat of every tree in the garden –except the tree of knowledge of good and evil. If you eat its fruit you will surely die.”
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a helper who is right for him .” So the LORD God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still, there was no helper just right for him.
So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. Genesis 2: 15 -22
God did not see the need for Adam to have a companion or helper until He started putting Adam to work in the place of his purpose.
The man (Adam) kept on carrying out his assignments and purpose, working with God even though there was a need in his life.
It was while carrying out his purpose of naming the animals whom God formed and brought to Adam, God observed that Adam although surrounded by various animals still there was no helper right for him.
There were lots of animals that kept him company, but they were not fit for him.
The LORD God in all the Scripture verses shared above teaches us that; the one and most important thing in the life of every “Man” is his God-given assignment and purpose.
A closer look at the scripture we will see that God did not say He will make Man a companion, He said; “I will make him a helper who is just right for him”. Another translation: New International Version said, “ I will make a helper suitable for him”.
In order words, not everyone is suitable for him.
So we can say, that though the man needs a companion,
his need was more than just having a companion.
He needs a companion and a helper for his God-given
assignment and purpose on Earth.
It’s in the place of carrying out your assignment and purpose that you find the right helper (tool) fit for you in marriage to help you continue to carry out your assignment, not the other way around like man is now doing today.
So I ask Beloved,
- Have you discovered your purpose?
- That man or woman you are dating, courting, or engaged to be married to, is he or she the right helper and companion for that your God-given purpose?
- Will he or she help you achieve it or will they slow you down or as it is in some marriages today, stop you from achieving your purpose in life?
Your purpose is what the LORD God made and formed you to be known for. There is no man or woman made by God without a purpose.
In making the choice of the helper of your purpose and partner in life, NO COMPROMISE is allowed. It is either He or She is the one for you, or they are not.
The purpose God has given to you has a suitable partner for it, but unless you find out what your purpose is, you will choose wrongly.
Purpose Discovery Leads To Spouse Discovery.
The reason you keep running up and down from Prophet to Prophet, Pastor to Pastor seeking vision and prophecy on whom you will marry is that you have not discovered your purpose.
When you discover your purpose, you will use it as a guideline and yardstick by the leading of the Holy Spirit, to sieve out the wrong relationship or partner who has no part to play in it.
Anyone who has no part to play in your purpose has no business being in your life.
2. Prayer :
Prayer simply put is talking to God. The Scripture tells us to pray without ceasing. Prayer is not about crying or shouting. It is petitioning God with your needs and wants, using His Word as a legal backing to remind Him of His promises to you in His Word.
When making the choice of whom to marry, Prayer is a must. You must give yourself to prayer, and while praying, you must be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. It is not enough to pray, you must also understand how prayer works and the leading of God in prayer.
When you pray, God could grant you your request immediately if your request is in line with His will for your life. While sometimes He might choose not to answer, which is also Him answering your prayer, but not the way you envisaged Him to.
One example that emphasizes the need for prayer and the importance of following the leading of God’s Spirit when making a choice of a spouse is the Prayer of Abraham’s Servant when he set out to get a wife for his master’s son Isaac.
Abraham was now a very old man. One day he said to his oldest servant, the man in charge of his household, “Take an oath by putting your hand under my thigh. Swear by the LORD God of heaven and earth, that you will not allow my son to marry one of this local Canaanite women.
Go instead to my homeland, to my relatives, and find a wife there for my son Isaac.
The servant asked, “But what if I can’t find a young woman who is willing to travel so far from home? Should I then take Isaac there to live among your relatives in the land you come from?
“NO!” Abraham responded. “Be careful never to take my son there. For the LORD, the God of heaven who took me from my father’s house and my native land and solemnly promised to give this land to my descendants. He will send his angel ahead of you, and you will see to it that you find a wife for my son.
So the servant took an oath by putting his hand under the thigh of his master, Abraham. He swore to follow Abraham’s instructions.
He loaded ten of Abraham’s camels with all kinds of expensive gifts from his master, and he travelled to distant Aram- naharaim. There he went to the town where Abraham’s brother Nahor had settled.
He made the camels kneel beside a well just outside the town. It was evening and the women were going and coming out to draw water.
“O LORD, God of my master, Abraham,” he prayed.
Please give me success today and show unfailing love to my master Abraham. See, I am standing here beside this spring and the young women of the town are coming out to draw water. This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug .’ ‘If she says, Yes have a drink, and I will water your camels, too !’- let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.
Before he had finished praying, he saw a young woman named Rebekah coming out with her jug on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel, who was the son of Abraham’s brother Nahor and his wife, Milcah.
Rebekah was very beautiful and old enough to be married, but she was a virgin.
She went down to the spring, filled her jug, and came up again. Running over to her the servant said, “ Please give me a little drink of water from your jug.”
“Yes my lord she answered”, “have a drink .” And she quickly lowered her jug from her shoulder and have him a drink. When she had given him a drink, she said, “I’II draw water for your camels, too, until they have had enough to drink. So she quickly emptied her jug into the watering trough and ran back to the well to draw water for all his camels.
The servant watched her in silence, wondering whether or not the LORD had given him success in his mission.
When the camels had finished drinking he took out a gold ring for her nose and two large gold bracelets for her wrists.
“Whose daughter are you?” he asked. “And please tell me, would your father have any room to put us for the night?”
“I am the daughter of Bethuel,” she replied. My grandparents are Nahor and Milcah. Yes, we have room for guests.”
The man bowed low and worshipped the LORD. “ Praise the LORD God of my master, Abraham, ” he said. The LORD has shown unfailing love and faithfulness to my master, for he has led me straight to my master’s relatives.” Genesis 24:1-67
It is said where there is someone to pray , there is a God to answer. Abraham’s servant before he set out on his journey to find a befitting wife for his master’s son had his fears and a lot of questions bothering his heart because he did not want to bring back the wrong wife or make the wrong decision in getting Isaac married.
All his questions and worries were answered when he prayed and was led by the angel of the LORD as his master told him.
We can see that he did not only make the right choice, but he also made a choice from amongst the relatives of his master Abraham, which was what his master desired.
In the midst of hundreds of women who were coming and going out to draw out water from the well, he was led straight to his master’s relatives because he prayed.
He did not go from pastor to pastor or prophet asking them to see vision and revelation for him, he prayed and the LORD God answered him.
Many of God’s children are in wrong marriages today, because of the wrong choices of spouses made for them by their prophets and pastors.
I’m not saying that it’s wrong to be prayed for by your pastor or prophet,
I’m saying it is wrong for you to let them dictate or chose for you whom to marry.
They did not make you so they do not know the right man or woman suitable for you.
The problem is that many of us are lazy when it comes to seeking God for ourselves.
We prefer to seek prophecy and visions and pay the pastor or prophet than seek God for our life and destiny.
A lot of people claiming to be God’s children don’t know His voice nor do they know what it means to be led by Him through the Holy Spirit.
Praying for your marital destiny is not something you contract away.
The consequences of choosing and marrying the wrong spouse can leave you scarred for life.
Seek God for yourself and hear him for yourself. Wait on Him until you get clear instructions from Him.
Most importantly, look beyond physical features when choosing a life partner.
Beloved, making the choice of a life partner, is not one to be made based on physical features which eyes can see; handsome, beautiful face, hourglass shape, flat belly, six packs, fat bank account, busty breast, and backside.
The heart is the engine of the body, and that is where your attention should be.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says, Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding …”
To make a good choice of a life partner, you must not lean on your own understanding or your prophet or pastor. God must be involved because He sees and knows beyond what your physical eyes can see.
He must lead you.
Before God can lead you, you must Submit totally to Him and not your understanding of what you think or feel you know about whom is seeking your hand in marriage or whose hand you are seeking in marriage.
Seek His will through prayers and waiting on Him in all you do, and He will show you which part to take, just as He showed Abraham’s servant through His angel.
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